6 Powerful Questions Every Parent Should Ask Their Child

“Am I really the parent my child feels safe with?”

Most of us parents spend so much time doing—feeding, guiding, correcting, and cheering—that we forget to pause and ask.
Ask how we’re doing. Ask how they’re feeling. Ask if our love is reaching them the way we think it is.

Because love, no matter how deeply felt, needs to be received to be truly known.

That’s where questions come in—gentle, open-hearted questions that help you see yourself through your child’s eyes.

Let’s explore 6 powerful questions every parent should be asking their child.

1. Do You Think I’m a Good Listener?

Kids don’t just need to be heard—they need to feel heard.
If your child ever hesitates to open up, it might not be because they’re hiding something. It might be because they don’t feel like we’re present when they speak.

Ask this gently, and listen without interrupting. You might be surprised by what they say.

2. Do You Ever Feel Like I Don’t Understand You?

This question takes courage.
But it shows your child that you’re human too—that you’re willing to learn, adjust, and improve.
It creates emotional safety and trust, where your child knows their feelings aren’t being dismissed.

“When I asked my 6-year-old this, she quietly said, ‘Sometimes when I cry, you say ‘It’s nothing.’ But to me, it’s something.’ That hit me hard.”

3. When I’m Busy or at Work, Do You Wish We Had More Time Together?

Even if we’re doing everything “right” as parents, quality time is what our kids remember.
This simple question can uncover hidden longings—and help us re-prioritise our moments with them, even if it’s just 10 mindful minutes a day.

4. What’s One Thing I Do That Makes You Sad or Frustrated?

Oof. This one stings a bit—but it’s a game changer.
Sometimes it’s the tone we use. Or the way we rush them. Or maybe we missed something that mattered to them.
Whatever the answer is, hearing it opens the door to repair and growth.

5. What Actions of Mine Make You Feel Loved?

Not all kids feel loved the same way.
Some crave hugs. Others want your undivided attention. Some beam when you cheer at their school performance, others when you tuck them in at night.

Asking this gives you the keys to their love language.

6. Can You Share a Time You Felt Proud of Me as Your Parent?

This question doesn’t just boost your confidence—it helps you understand what your child truly values.
Maybe it was when you stood up for them. Or when you made time for a special outing. Or even how you apologized when you lost your temper.

Let that guide you forward.

Why These Questions Matter More Than We Think

When we ask our children for feedback, we’re showing them that their voice matters.
We’re building a parenting relationship based on respect, emotional safety, and reflection.

“These questions serve as a compass,” as one quote puts it—guiding us back to what truly matters: connection.

At The Nesavu, we believe parenting is as much about listening as it is about leading.
And just like our handcrafted kidswear is stitched with thought and love, so should the conversations we have with our little ones.

Let your child feel seen, heard, and truly known.

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